The Shift from Why to What According to Me....

I recently discovered a great blog that is centered around positive thinking and as I was voraciously devouring every word, it became so clear to me that life consists of a running commentary in our heads. Part of that commentary is acknowledging the "why" and moving on to the "what". By that I mean that I have reached a point in my life that the "why" doesn't matter as much as the "what."

See, when I'm in the "why" mode, "why did this have to happen to me?", it is so easy to remain in a victim role. It kind of falls into the "if only" someone wouldn't have done something, said something or contributed in anyway to the situation I currently find myself in, that allows me to not take responsibility for my own feelings. It also allows a very convenient excuse for not getting myself out of the current situation. It is someone else's fault. I have the luxury, if only momentarily, of getting off completely free from taking the responsibility of accepting my own thoughts. Then I have to weigh the reward...is the reward of giving away my power by not accepting my own responsibility greater than the reward of accepting responsibility and ultimate control of my life and my thoughts? Is taking a stand and changing the thought by moving forward into a possibly unknown outcome exciting or too terrifying to contemplate? Personally I find it exhilarating to think about what will happen to spur me to grow out of my comfort zone. A challenge. Yum.

By moving into the "what" mode, it is the complete ownership of the acceptance that I have made lemonade out of the lemons I have not only created, but the realization that I created the tree that grew the lemons in the first place (with the grateful nod to Davin for that one). If I take responsibility for my thoughts that lead to my actions, I strike a match to the trajectory of my life to ignite the jet fuel to rocket me forward into the best possible situation and the growth that comes along for the ride. I made the bargain with myself and the Universe that I would live the best life possible, and by doing that, I take myself out of the victim role (the "why" mentality) and move fearlessly forward armed with WHAT as my guide. See, the "why" doesn't matter. It is only the actions I take that propel me forward that are worth the contemplation...What is my next delicious pleasure? What will I do today that will change my life in a positive way? What can I bring to the table that is meaningful?

So the lesson for today is that I don't have to know the why anymore...I only need to know the what. Today I love my body more than why...
XO
Karen